wwW - July 2nd

I love this time of year. And I'm loving the weather. Cloudy skies and refreshingly cool winds are my glory, and the dogs too on our morning walk through the park next to our house. There is a little thrill as I cross the bridge and go up the footpath on the hill to see the ferris-wheel and the flags and steel girders of the county carnival set up for the coming holiday. I love the 4th of July.

Don't get me wrong, I would probably die for the meanings behind Christmas and Easter. Those incredible, important holidays that have deep foundations in my faith - or at least the core of what they started as. But the little kid inside me can't get enough of the superficial fun at Halloween and the 4th of July. And yes I know celebrating concepts like national freedom, and the sacrifice it takes to obtain and maintain are not at all superficial. But if I am honest, most of my holiday will not revolve around that - though I am deeply indebted to our servicemen and women and the government that holds those values.

The 4th of July is about getting my house clean (yeah!). It is about having friends over. It is about good food. And yes around here it is about parades and carnival rides and fireworks.

When we moved into our home eight years ago over Thanksgiving weekend with the help of our friends from game group, we had no clue that one of the best fireworks displays in the state would be lit a half a block away in the park, or that the same park would host the carnival rides and food booths, and musicians that come with such civic celebrations.

I have loved sitting so close that you can see the firefighters lighting the rockets, you can feel the sound as well as hear it (a little bit left over from being raised by a military explosives expert I guess). And I love that every year we seem to get a new color thrown into the mix.(Last years was a bright turquoise.)

I am loving that it is a chance to entertain, to cook and bake. And this year I am really proud and excited that my children are undertaking key parts of the kitchen work. Fred 1 is going to be running the grill, Fred 2 has already made a batch of outstanding cookies, and Fred 3 is all lined up to help with the traditional deviled eggs. It is a neat thing to see your children growing into young adults.

I love it that we can open our home to friends. Our family is often too far away to come, but it is a neat thing to have friends that enjoy the holiday with us. For two introverts who grew up with very few friends, it is actually a surprising thing. 12 years ago we met a group of people who posted about getting together to game in our city on an internet bulletin board. I remember how nervous we were as a couple  to go and try that out.

We still meet regularly. We've been a part of weddings and housewarmings. We have talked the talk of parents with kids in the same age group, who all like games too. It is a joy to have friends. Some things from childhood hang on in that you find yourself consistently surprised. I will always be surprised how green Wisconsin is having been raised in a desert. And in this odd undercurrent of thought I am always happily surprised that every 4th of July we have friends who enjoy coming to our house.

So Christmas and Easter, they point me to those basal  things that God has done things that give a depth to my life that I cannot imagine being without. But the 4th of July points me to what I have to be thankful for within life itself: the fabric of friendships, calendar events, celebration, and the quiet walks in the park where there is a magic in the air before the rides start to twirl and the music starts to pound.

wwW - Week 2 Camp Zoom

Week 2 has been a little harder. Everyone is a little more fatigued. The needs have been more challenging, the misbehavior more obvious, more pervasive, and for me anyways, the muscles sorer than they were the week before.

Let's face it, there are some days where it is simply harder to find the positive than others.

And a little voice inside says that on those days it may be even more important to look for it.

The truth is that underneath the fatigue and the misbehavior of little ones that can push towards annoyance and frustration - is the fact that there is no place that I would rather work. I love camp. I have since I was a camper not much older than the kids in Zoom, and I've never grown out of it. I chose the college I went to a million years ago because it had a degree in camping. It has taken me time to get here, but that makes it something I want to savor even more.

I am slowly getting use to little bodies and am finding myself falling into a fascination with pre-schoolers instead of getting freaked out when some random little body plops itself on mine. My own dislike of being touched is slowly starting to get anesthetized. In fact I think I am starting to learn some pretty deep things from them that have been triggered by unexpected hugs and random encounters during quiet time.

Things like what trust really looks like. One little one had no clue who I was. I remember the movie stopping, the light going on, and a little face looking up at me and asking "oh, who are you?"

There isn't a whole lot of caution in that type of trust, no tentative behavior, no wondering if I've had a background check, or work well with kids,or have a cool hat. To be honest not much thought at all. I probably looked like a good big shadowy chair in the dark. It was the type of trust that was so entwined with simple action that it might be hard to separate the concept of trust from the act itself.

And I want to trust God like that. I want to throw myself at him when I'm in the dark and not even have to think about it. Those are the things I am learning this summer. I am learning to be hungry for a simple trust.

                                       Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
                                       and do not lean on your own understanding.
                                       In all your ways acknowledge him,
                                       and he will make straight your paths.
                                                                                       Proverbs 3:5&6

I think some days that verse was written for me - especially the leaning on your own understanding bit. I LIKE to understand. I like getting to know some of my little charges and find out what is driving them, why they are reacting and thinking the way they do. I want to go home and research strategies and behaviors and keep on experimenting in a quest to understand.

And understanding is not a bad thing by any means. But some days I come to the end of myself and realize, I'm not going to get that understanding.  And maybe that is because I need to step back for a minute and realize that this God we have is bigger than anything I am capable of comprehending.

I am learning that this God who does business in little things from the firing of nerve sequences in our brains, to which child is in which room with which peer group, is no less in charge of the details on a harder week than he is on one that is running entirely smooth (though I think that type of week might make me a little freaked out). He hasn't stopped weaving things together. I'm just in a place where it might not seem quite so obvious to my worm's eye view.

So what's working?
I am where I want to be, working alongside some amazing people, for the best goal I could think of, and I am learning a lot too: from ways to use touch to calm children to some deeper things rattling around in the maze I call a brain. Yeah, some things are working, and with God involved most likely they are way bigger than the ones I see that I think need to be fixed.

What's Working on Wednesday

I'm inspired by a young fellow I know in a wheel chair today who asked me what my favorite day was. His is Tuesday, mine like many I know was Friday (the promise of the break ahead is so tantalizing some weeks). Then he proceeded to ask me what my least favorite day was. It took me some thinking, but I had to admit that it was Wednesday (yes my energy levels do sag at that time). His was Friday, because he misses the teachers and friends from camp when he has to say goodbye. Did I tell you how sweet this little guy was?

So in honor of TGIF and tbt, I'm instituting another acronym that I actually need - WWW (Shhhh, I know it's already taken - but since I've seen only about 20 seconds of that world, and 20 seconds was about 15 too many for me - I figure I can use it anyways.) Maybe I should just uncapitalize it - www (uh - that's taken too), or use proper grammar wwW. Uhm yeah, It's been a long day can you tell?

You see I am an observer. I watch. Sometimes too much with too little action. And I think. And the combination often produces insight, but it also can produce criticism and negativity. I battle there. And some days there is no triumph in that battle. So, I am committing one day a week to blog about what I see that is wonderful; to what I see that is working; to what I see that speaks to the wellness that is still out there in life.

So without further ado, my first What's Working on Wednesday:

What could have been a stormy grey day with tensions and tornado drills came together with team-members who were so understanding and flexible that many of our young charges didn't even know it was raining. The staff set the tone and while there were yawns and some fatigue, the smiles and back massages were real. I'm working with such an amazing set of young adults and teens who are already well into the land of responsibility and leadership. They continually make me smile as I get to know them better each day.

And my kids.
My charges with special needs, some with physical limitations, some who think entirely different than anyone else in the room, so different that it can be a struggle to relate, so different that anxiety levels are constantly high. My charges were playing with their peers today. Socializing, integrated into games and dancing, and movie watching, and imagining. Knowing the alternative for these kids - my heart was soaring.

And it was moved when one of my different thinkers ran out to another camper who was crying in the middle of the gymnasium. He was saying "E281, E281" to her over and over. I didn't get it for a minute and ashamed to say that I initially thought that he was the cause of the tears. It was only afterwards that I realized what was really happening. E281 was the number by the door of the Camp Medic's station. My guy was helping. He was interacting and responding to distress in the way that he knew how to . He was fixing a problem. He was showing compassion.

The high point of my day was playing sharks and lifeguards with the parachute. It's a simple concept. A few people are chosen to be sharks - they are under the parachute, another few people are chosen to be life guards - they patrol the perimeter of the parachute. The rest are swimmers with their legs under the edge of the chute, using their arms to make waves in that brightly colored parachute ocean. Sometimes a shark drags a person under and they join the ranks. Sometimes the lifeguards save them by pulling them back before they disappear into the depths.

My little guy in the wheelchair next to me screamed as his chair rolled under the chute from a tug, and I darted under with him, all concern - he laughed at me. "You are supposed to scream when they get you." I laughed at myself then. We had a good time exploring that ocean looking for a swimmer to grab and make scream in return..

The last round I was totally caught off guard sitting next to his chair.  My legs weren't under the chute - I considered the two of us a single unit - his wheels were shark bait and I went along wherever he did. But four or five of our young campers didn't see it that way. Little sharks grabbed my hands and shoulders and started happily laboriously trying to pull my grown up bulk under the chute. I played along shouting for help from a lifeguard and waving my long legs. Looking up and seeing my guy doubled over laughing as I got my teen daughter instead of a lifeguard. She decided to join the sharks and helped them drag me under.

Somehow there was magic in that moment for me. For me personally. Oh we so underrate playtime. And laughter. And happy screams.

There has been another layer to what has been working, and it goes so far beyond the stuff that we have control over. Yesterday, I heard the crash of the table, the scream of a child, the gasp of volunteers running. Accidents, out of our control, never intended - they happen. But this time there was a young teen there to slow the descent of the table and a toy bin to take some of the impact. What could have been so serious turned into a bump and some scared people, myself included. I couldn't have caught that table or placed that bin, but God saw to it.

Tornado warnings, black skies, water coming from the heavens in sheets. Somehow it happened on the day after the Lego Movie was released on DVD and some leader with great foresight purchased it and brought it in. When you are 5, you don't care what the weather is when you are watching Emmett save the Universe. You can't convince me that it is all coincidence. So it is good to see the things that you have no control over in His hands.

Because it is always amazing to see what he is doing for us.

What really is important.

MICHAEL CARD

When A Window Is A Mirror


Albert is a friend I know
Who walks a shuffling way.
And you must learn to read his face
For he hasn't much to say.

But he carries 'round inside himself
The knowledge he gives free.
If you look through, not at, his life
A whole new world inside you'll see.

[Chorus:]
When a window is a mirror,
You see two ways at one time.
You look outside and see the land,
The mountains left to climb.
But also you can see inside
Your face suspended there
Behold your face, and see your place
And understand why you are here.

Each time I gaze upon this boy
There's something moves inside
I see my own deformities
No longer need to hide

And through his life
I look upon my life a different way
this freedom that he gives for free
Means so much more than I can say

[Chorus]

And Albert offers at no charge
The hope what life can bring
But what he freely gives us all
Has cost him nearly everything. . . .

One of our students in the special ed room passed away unexpectedly, tragically. After months of care we were all close, not family, but a reflected shade of it. And we are grieving the loss of one incredible life.

The world might not see a list of impressive accomplishments. Especially, from our room. We work with babies in middle school bodies. Ones you care for, who have no voice, who need to be kept from harming themselves and others. No list of academic prowess -- many cannot communicate with words at all.

And yet they have something sacred.

When life is pared down this far you get a new grid on what is important, you start to realize that accomplishments and abilities don't rate as high as existing and being loved.

I need to remember how important that is.


Existing, and being loved.

• it comes before the accomplishment of to do lists, both the mundane and the life goal varieties
• It comes in before an impressive resume or how many friends one has on social media.
• It comes before the dream job, or any job for that matter.
• It is ahead of life's relationships - because human love can add to the equation, but God's love outweighs them all.

And he loves these children. There are few truths that I have stumbled across in my cynical life without questioning and tearing apart, but this is one of them. I know to the core of myself that God loves these children.

So, my dear boy, know that you are teaching me still what is important, the things that are most important. I, who have fancy degrees and a vocabulary full of large impressive sounding words, am learning from you who have no words, just a beautiful smile, strong arms, and a heart of simple happiness. because you have existed and you are loved.

To Quentin, my Albert, you are missed.

Game Review: The Game Room & Dixit

old drawing of the GAME ROOM 

Of all of the rooms in my "I wish for . . . mansion" the one I think that I would most like to have is a game room.  My grandparents started us early on games. I have many fond memories of them helping us learn to spell playing scrabble, of chess matches with Grandpa, and of all the times Grandma and Grandpa battled it out in a game of Hearts - yes, Grandpa won most of the time, but when Grandma won it was so worth the reaction. 

Happy times those. And it left games in my blood.

So I have this dream room in my mansion. The first part of it is like an indoor amphitheater - in fact I guess it could double as a home theater. A very large screen with multiple game consoles in a built-in under neath. Shelving off to both sides to store remotes, games, maybe a few DVDs & CDs, deep concentric steps about 2 -3 feet deep with giant bean bags thrown about - hey lets make them leather bean bags - because if you are going to dream this big - you might as well go all the way. Plus leather wipes off easy - and I imagine this area will be popular with teens and pre-teens and kiddoes with sticky fingers. There's a snack bar and kitchenette, 'cause snacks and games go together, making the need for easy-wipe surfaces doubled.

Yet for me this tech heaven of electronic games is not the most exciting part of this structure that only exists in my imagination (though I love the idea of hosting youth group there and dimming the lights for movies). In every dream home I've ever imagined there are secret doors.

One of those shelves packed with digital paraphernalia swings on a hidden catch and beyond there is a small foyer opening up into my sanctuary. An octagonal room with a large round table, the center of which is a digital screen that can be linked to a laptop to project maps and game boards, animations and video clips. Three walls have deep shelving units and are packed with games of almost every variety. The wall opposite the foyer has french doors heading out to a patio and terraced garden (that I admire so very much, because I cannot seem to keep green things alive - so my imaginary mansion must have an imaginary gardener). The remaining walls have windows that let in tons of natural light and views of the garden. Those views feel peaceful and serene - I could enjoy this room - Christened "the keyhole" because of it's shape. The ceiling has a one of a kind galaxy light fixture that is equipped with color changing LEDs and dimming switches - a useful piece of art that effectively sets the mood for the entire room. At night it is magical.

This room has a much more intimate feeling. It demands social interaction, whether playing RPG's with adult friends, Pandemic with teens, or Mousetrap with a child. While technology has it's role in this room - from putting a battlemap on the table to changing the lighting to express how close Forbidden Island is to sinking, it's role is an assist to human interactions rather than a player on it's own right. For me that feels right somehow - though I have been trying to get over those feelings - so please note I am not slamming video games (I have devoted a lot of space to them here in this imaginary dwelling. . . ).

Yeah, I build stuff in my imagination.

I don't have a game room, but the reality is, it really isn't that important. I do have shelves overflowing with games, a kitchen table that is only half cluttered, and people who want to play games to sit there. Some of whom are my children, my husband, dear friends, and now my children's friends. I have the really necessary things. The rest I can afford to leave in my imagination - though I do mentally toy with trying to learn enough about electricity to create that galaxy light - it could add a lot of class if installed over my kitchen table. . . .

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So yes, we play a lot of games here. And I thought that if I could review one from time to time - well, it might prove interesting for the 4 people who read my blog heh. Actually, I write for me, not for readers - and tonight the truth is that I am procrastinating - and any excuse will do not to have to clean out my craft closet.

So in the way that procrastination heads, I sat down and played a new game with my kids. One by the name of Dixit. And I loved it. Here's why.

The game plays like a visual Apples to Apples. Each player has a set of cards with different images on them. The active player comes up with a verbal clue that has something to do with one of her cards.

The other players cannot see the card - they only have the clue. They then try to pick one of their cards that could also illustrate the clue. All of the cards are given to the active player who arranges them randomly in numbered spaces. The rest of the players then vote on which they think the original card is.

Here's where it gets fun - in the scoring. The active player only gets points if one or more players chose their card and one or more players didn't choose their card. Meaning, that you want to try and come up with somewhat ambiguous clues, because if everyone guesses your card - you don't get any points. If you can reach this happy medium, the active player receives 3 points and players guessing the card correctly get 3 points plus 1 point for each person guessing their card as the original. The guessing players get 2 points each if everyone guesses the correct card, active player gets 0 points. If no one guesses the active players card, the other players each receive 2 points plus one point for each vote their card received, active player gets 0 points.

So this puts a different twist on the creation of the clue. For those with tactical or verbal minds - this part of the game is intriguing. But for me the real charm of this game is the visuals. The artwork on the cards is amazing, evocative and open to a "zillion" interpretations, making this game a stroke of visual genius.

After each round we talked about why we had chosen the cards we had, and I learned a lot about my children, what they think, and what they feel. Every once in a while the explanation was " I couldn't find a good card" but for the most part my 11 & 14 year olds had reasoning that fit. It also made the game an even playing field for adults and children/teens.

This is a quality game, with sturdy playing pieces, a stunning visual representations, and thought put into the design. For instance, the box has space set aside already for future expansions, which we will probably obtain.

The box suggests 8 years or older, which I would concur with. The thinking that goes into the game might be difficult for younger players, and a few cards might be scary or sad (for instance, a man made of leaves blowing away in the wind) - though given the typical TV viewing habits of children these days, only the extremely sheltered should take issue. It is for 3-6 players. We played our first game using the special rules for a 3 player game and enjoyed it a lot - looking forward to playing it with more.

So yes, a game I loved - good for families. I can highly recommend it!

Whether or not you have a game room.

because it's not happily ever after. . . freedom to struggle

It's been a while since I've written anything here. But today I am driven here by life to help me process things.

My own job hangs on a thread with  political agendas and budget cuts.

My brother in law has been forced from his position as a teacher (something he had remarkable skill at) because an administrator just didn't like him.

Our youth pastor has been asked to leave a thriving ministry that is very much a reflection of his heartbeat, because of personality differences with the governing body of the church.

Of all of these, it is the last that seems to sting most. And I know why. Because the church, the body of believers is supposed to be better than that. We are supposed to be able to work through personality differences. Firings like this should be because of moral failure, not - "We find it difficult to work with you." Especially when there are so many families involved. So many many teens whose lives have been impacted, a wife who has impacted just as many. Four young children, too young too understand.

But then I don't understand either.

There is going to be grieving here.

But it won't turn to railing against the church, as much as I am tempted. Because there is this thing in the Bible, a theme of sorts - and paraphrased it goes like this.

Just 'cause you are a Christian doesn't mean you are good.

Even the redeemed are broken.

We don't focus on this in the church. Maybe because we are all pursuing peace and happiness and joy, and to be sure, that is there, but there are equal measures of broken nastiness, the mire that we just can't seem to escape.

I've never heard a sermon on how David - the one who would be king, who would be given important promises from God, whose bloodline would lead to Jesus. Yup that David, "The man after God's own heart, David" how the end of his life was miserable.He made disastrous choices, and his family life was a wreck. His kids were evil and the end of David's life is simply heartbreaking. We don't hear sermons like that, and if we do it is all about a warning - "don't make those choices, raise your families right."

But what if there is more than a warning. What if the story has more to it. What if it follows the same theme that held true in the lives of the patriarchs in Genesis, or the apostles in the New Testament, or Paul the missionary. What if it isn't a warning, but a statement. "Even when you believe in God, life will be a struggle."

There is no "smooth sailing after salvation" clause. Nor is there an agreement that we are going to make right choices, react in godly ways. In fact there is very little empirical evidence that Christians will live much differently than those who do not believe the Bible.

And for me there is a comfort in the fact that the Bible reflects this. It talks about real broken people. Paul who argued with Barnabas - a difference of opinion that became "we cannot work together". The letters to the churches - sheesh! guess what, those churches had issues, and we still do. The leaders and array of humanity listed in scripture have an overriding theme -
busted up,
broken,
sinful,
not good,
evil.

So where does that leave us.

It gives us freedom to flail, to struggle, to realize that we are broken.
It gives us freedom to accept that life is a struggle and that "happily ever after" might not happen, but that is OK - because there is something deeper than that in the journey.
It lets us cherish peace and joy when they are there in the middle of the struggle - because that is one of those inexplicable treasures that God gives us.
It allows for grief over our own brokenness and over it in the lives that touch us.

And those are good things. That is where we want to be.
Because think of stopping to struggle - that is death. And we can long for the end of that struggle and look forward to it, but if we stop trying to fight while we are still alive we become nothing more than a zombie. (Yes, our youth pastor has had a mark - I just used the word "zombie".)

And if we stop grieving over brokenness we are a no longer what we should be. No longer humans in God's image, but something less.

So today I will grieve.

Today I will struggle.

And I will find comfort in that.

Lessons Learned. . . . when the 40 year old signs up to chaperon the Middle School all nighter

• It's really OK to sign up and see what keeps those 6th - 8th graders going all night. Even if you are old enough to be their mom (or even if a few of them call you mom).

• What keeps them going is 40% cool activities, 20% "I'd die if anyone takes a picture of me sleeping", and 40% large amounts of caffeine, last weeks Halloween candy, and cold pizza.

• You can gain a new appreciation for the abilities and insights of their 20 year old leaders. Stood stunned as a a very young leader stood in front of the locker rooms and loudly directed youth to the right side based on gender, because some of them think it's funny to head the wrong way, and others are already out of it enough that they are just following the person ahead of them, regardless what the picture on the door says. Old dogs can learn new tricks. Even ones who've been around the block.

• With a little wisdom and energy conservation you can keep up with the 20 year olds. Let them go up and down all the stairs to ride water slides with the kids - you stay at the bottom and help pull extra tubes out of the lazy river, or hang out with the girls on the lounge chairs who don't want to mess up their hair by getting wet. You'll learn a lot even by doing that.

• You do not need to change into a bathing suit. 6th - 8th grade girls (and boys too) are painfully body conscious. So are 40 year old women with spare tires. Difference is the water fun does not have to entice you the same amount.

• Remember to bring a camera next year, so that you look like you are doing something profitable after the extra inner-tubes in the lazy river have all been co-opted, and you are wandering around in jeans and a T.

The best lines in the leader manual came under the instructions for the waterpark:

• Do not let students fall asleep in the lazy river.
• Do not fall asleep in the lazy river. 

• Also during training, when the 20 year old leading this says that they do not want any kids getting decapitated, control your imagination. Do not let these pep talks unnerve you - remember that you'll probably only need a band aid out of the med kit - or the bodily fluids clean up kit for the kid who ate too much pizza - at most. You can handle that, and if you can't, you get to find the same 20 year old who led training to do it.

• Take a turn in the back of the bus. You know, the spot where all of the leaders are avoiding because the kids are acting like the reputation that middle school students have. But don't take every turn there, unless you connect with some of that crowd. Allow yourself the joy of sitting with a sweet sixth grader whose goal for the night is to stay up the whole time and who will talk about favorite movies, books, and games to not nod off. And it's really super cool if they like Legos, Lord of the Rings and Star Wars just like you do.

• When that one kid is missing, again, from their turn in the bowling line-up, it is OK to sub for them. It is also OK to roll gutter balls and have totally-awkward-rusty-I-haven't-done-this-in-20-years form. It is OK to laugh at yourself, knowing you have given some very green 6th graders hope that they aren't the worst in the room. It is not OK to re-injure the rotator cuff - choose the 6 lb pink bowling ball that the little girl who weighs 60 lbs is using - It really is the smart choice, it's going in the gutter no matter how much it weighs so do yourself a favor on this one. 

• Be thankful for youth who are learning, even the hard way, to use spending money. Be extra thankful for vendors and cashiers who are putting up with 300+ youth who are learning to do this at 2:30 in the morning.

• Watch for the coolness of a majority of those kids minding their Ps & Qs. Nothing is cooler than polite middle school students - especially if you are the cashier who ended up drawing the short straw on this event.

• Remember to bring your camera next year. And pat yourself on the back for having a few tricks up your sleeves too. That kid who was deciding to channel Miley Cyrus at 3am on the table at the bowling alley - well he listened when you said you were digging for your camera, so that you could send his mom a video. You might not know his mom, but the advantage of being 40 - is that you look like you might.

• While we are at it - other things to bring next year as a chaperon - 
• a watch (yup, long story how you ended up out the door without one, but they do come in handy - especially because every 10 minutes a 6th grader will ask you what time it is), 
• a pair of safety scissors. The "no weapons" rule undoes the use of the handy dandy pocket knife, but a pair of safety scissors is wonderful at trimming wristbands, opening water flats, and making snowflakes out of the game print out with that bored but craft minded young lady you had in 5th grade Sunday School class last year. 
• home-made cookies, half price Halloween candy, or cans of Pringles - do not under estimate the power of a pod leader who has snacks for their kids (or how light your wallet could get if you look at the cost of buying for a group at a venue).
• face paint! The kids like to match their bus color - and the bowling alley has UV - time to test out those neat rave paints that I have in the kit!!
• a pen, because you need to write down the names of the kids in your group, your memory isn't what the 20-year olds is and it helps to refer back to that list - unfortunately if all you could grab was a highlighter lying on the floor- the only place you will be able to read said list is in the UV light at the bowling alley.

• Activities such as this, where 350 students, 50 leaders, snacks, and clipboards have to arrive in a timely fashion at various locations throughout the night on eight different school buses. . . . well it is a great opportunity to appreciate the incredible thought, effort, and magic put forward by the unseen gurus of all things organizational and color coded - Katee you rock!

• Cool parents tell their own offspring which bus they will be on, not so their kids can ride with them, but so their kids can choose to not ride with them.

• However, when you've stood in line for almost an hour to ride the go-carts, get to the top of the line to discover that you've lost your wristband and cannot do go-carts, laser-tag, skills maze, or bumper cars for the remainder of your time at the arcade - a hug from you mom is actually OK. especially if she buys you donuts to soften the blow.

• Middle school students, even the good kids, are not  prone to cleaning up the bus at 5am - this is part of your job description - you're a mom and very used to this - so help out the 20 year old bus captain who really needs a break after his turn in the back of the bus.

• Remember to bring your camera, this all purpose tool comes in handy to capture the joy of being able to sleep under a table or in the hallway after having made it through the breakfast line.

• Hold onto those really cool things. Sam's grandpa - I want to be like you when I grow up. While I stand here at 40 - you're here a generation ahead of me - and you were riding the waterslides like a pro and showing the kids how to play pinball at the arcade. You definitely have the "coolest chaperon" award in my book.

• Tired 20 year old chaperons will stay an extra 30 minutes to watch the end of Monsters University, even after the kids have all gone home.  Why? 
• well they might not have seen it, because they don't have kids, and Avengers was probably higher on their to see list,
• but they are young enough to connect with the original Monsters Inc. movie,
• they are tired, 
• and it's cool having done something like this and
• you can just enjoy hanging out with your friends for the last quiet little bit.  A very wise program director let everyone have this moment, even though I am sure that he'd seen the movie with his children and equally as sure that he wanted to get out of there. But there was something magic about the moment -  
• and it IS a great movie.

• It is OK when you get home and reach for a glass of milk, if you accidentally pour out the whole milk instead of the skim. You probably more than made up for those calories.

• For all the details we are in control of - there is nothing like spending the night with a bunch of middle school students to help you realize how much is infinitely out of our control, and it gives you a certain sense that the world is not swallowed up in that out of control chaos, but that God is working all the lines together and weaving a tapestry out of which kids make it onto which bus, which kids you connect with, which kids connect with each other, and what random events happen over the course of a single night.